7 Keys Creation Story

As the child of an alcoholic, chain smoking mother and a workaholic father during a time period where mother’s natural instincts were superseded by male doctors, to the point that breast feeding was abandoned, I grew up in an environment where there was little to no consistent palpable connection.

The current field of psychology with its Attachment and Affect Regulation Theories labels this lack of “attunement” to an infant and young child, along with other ongoing adverse child hood experiences as “Developmental Trauma”.

This history along with my natural inclination, (as my mother told me when I was 9 that “I really understand people”), is what spurred a lifelong quest to understand “what makes people happy?” This quest was also motivated by my own deep level of discontent and sense of not enough, unloveable and other core states of defectiveness that come from an underlying shame that exists as a result of this lack of initial Self building connection. These feelings of inadequacy (no matter how successful I was in the outer world) were only enhanced by the poor choices in relationships I made, that this all typically leads to, that occurred over time.

My first book Express Yourself: Discover Your Inner Truth, Creative Self and the Courage to Let it Out, took me 7 years to write and was my first attempt at expressing all that I had learned and discovered up to that point, to help me move beyond the inherent sense of inadequacy that was lodged deep within my cellular memories. That was published in approximately 2000. When I did radio interviews for this book I had distilled what was in this book down to 4 Keys at first.

Now many years later with more life experience, trainings and working with more people as a workshop facilitator and counselor, I have enhanced the existing keys, added more and refined it to 7 Powerful Keys. I also have come to understand that so much of the woes of our culture come from a great sense of Disconnection that I talk about in the book as “the Great Disconnect.” The Antidote to this is contained within this new book, the 7 Keys to Connection.